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Making the Choice
As we live day by day, we
are constantly making choices that steer the course of our lives.
Often times these choices have consequences. Many times we have
to make a choice between what is right and what is easy.
I believe we always know
the right choice in any given situation, although we will often
find excuses to take the easy way. I have been a master at taking
the easy way in the past and wish I could say I do not do it today
but it is something that I still dance with some of the time.
Many things factor into making
the right choice. We know intuitively most of the time when we have
made a right or wrong choice. Nevertheless, we often try to justify
the wrong choice in order to feel or look right. This is done out
of fear. Yet when we admit wrong doing it is like a weight has been
lifted from us and we can walk lightly again. Therefore, you would
think we would choose to admit wrong doing more often.
So how do you know what is
the right choice? I think that each one of us has to make that decision
based on our intuition, our heart, and not allow outside influences
to make our decisions for us. Getting input is great but turning
your power over to someone or something else will only lead you
to disappointment, pain and hard lessons.
Many things --conscious and
subconscious-- can influence us when making choices.
Here are a few examples:
Criticism
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Social
Conditioning |
Not
wanting to hurt someone's feelings |
Upbringing
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Self
Esteem |
Beliefs
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Guilt
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Genetic
patterning or family conditioning |
Fear
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Advertising
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You will often experience
many of these at the same time when you have to make a choice. Interestingly
enough, it can affect you every day not just in big life situations
or decisions. What about the simple choice of your dinner entrée?
Important, yes, but how much is your choice influenced by one or
several of the categories above? I would venture to say that you
can pick at least three or more easily.
It does not matter whether
you make the "right" choice or the "wrong" choice
as long as you learn from it. There are no wrong choices, only those
we choose not to learn from.
Just know that:
. You don't have to buy or
believe what others say - Question authority!
. You don't have to work
at any particular job - Do what you love!
. You don't have to participate
in any given relationship - let go of relationships that do not
support your highest good!
. You have the right to say
no and not feel guilty - Start today!
. You can change the outcome
of a genetic pattern - Play towards making this a reality in your
life!
. You can change your beliefs
and do all the time - Acquire knowledge!
You alone steer the course,
you choose in the direction of where you want to be today, tomorrow
and in the future, with every choice, large or small, that you make.
You can decide to alter the course of your life at any time, in
a big way or in small ways. No one can ever take that away from
you. You can decide what you want and go after it. You can make
a living doing whatever you love. You have a birthright to create
the life you want. All it takes is focusing on what you want, and
making choices consistent with that focus. In addition, remember
t o be your own person -- to have your
own life -- begins with quietly refusing to be what "others"
would have you be so that they can have the life that they
want!
These are statements that,
when combined with your intention to create a different life and
make conscious choices, can bring about transformation. Do not let
the fear of your past, of the unknown or the known get in your way
and stop you from choosing and creating the life that you always
dreamed.
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